Grief is a Temporary Guest
Heartache after heartache will come
over, uninvited to your home.
They won’t knock,
they will just walk
right in and take
away something that made
you feel loved, or wanted, or safe.
And for a time
You will find
grief’s tag-along presence, while
Not welcome either, a kind
Of substitute in love’s vacant place at your table.
A stand in, a place-
holder. You may not be feeling
love anymore, but you feel something.
And for a time, grief will channel your pain,
by asking you questions, and making
You face your broken new reality;
Allowing you the space to accept the possibility
That who you were before this loss
is also gone.
This guest that offers insight,
while needed for a time, is not always right.
At least not when it outstays it’s welcome.
Because when these pieces of wisdom
about pain and rejection stay too long
You may begin to believe that they are all
You will ever feel again. But just as something good passed
away, so can sadness.
To allow that though, you will have to choose
to be happy again. You will have to lose
again, a comfort you’ve relied
on to cope. Because however unfair it may seem,
loss needs no permission, but hope
must be invited to have a place in your home.
You may have to choose to be still lonelier, before you can be happier.
I once heard it said that “if you don’t heal
your wounds, you will bleed
On those who never cut you”.
And while “the pain done to you
is not your fault, your healing
is your responsibility”.
So no matter how empty it feels to let go of pain’s temporary relief,
you will at some point have to send Grief
away; Ignore it’s seductive call
to wallow forever where you are.
You are brave enough
To tell pain, “I will not accept you as a replacement for love”.